thirty-somethings

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flirting…or lack there of…

on July 16, 2014

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I can’t remember if I have written a post about my lack of flirting skills. I was too lazy to check, so here I am.

I suck at flirting. It’s one of those things I didn’t pick up on. Don’t get me wrong…I’m a very social person, I get along really well with others, and I can carry on a normal conversation with others. So what is it about flirting that makes me act like a socially awkward person?!? I have no idea. For example, this messaged me on OkC just the other day saying I have an adorable smile. My response back to him?? “You have some pretty cute dogs!!” I tried to save it by later saying something about him being good looking. He handled it well and said among the lines of they get it from him.

Bad Flirting

Is there a way I can learn how to flirt? I’m nearing thirty…does that mean I’m a lost cause?

There’s another funny story: (I’ve told this to a few of my friends, so if y’all are reading this…sorry!)

I go to staples (which is my favorite store…I have a freakish obsession with office supplies) and as I leave the store there’s a cute guy just a few feet in front of me leaving the store as well. Both of our cars are parked on the right side of the lot but in order for it not to be awkward, I move over to the left side so I’m not directly behind him. I soon realized that was a bad idea because I had to get to my car…I slowly moved back over to the right side. Only to my disbelief the cute guy is parked NEXT TO ME! EEEK! So, as I kinda get behind him again…he says in a jokingly/flirty way…”oh are you following me?!” And my response?? First, I make an weirdddd noise…followed by…”uhhhhh…sorrryyyyy….” all while hurrying to get to my car.

I sat in the car for a minute thinking: OUT OF ALL THE THINGS I COULD’VE SAID?! I SAID SORRY!?!??!? Ugh. I really gotta step up my flirting game.

Anyways, that’s that. One day some guy will learn to appreciate my social awkwardness.

there are so many good memes on bad flirting!

there are so many good memes on bad flirting!

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5 responses to “flirting…or lack there of…

  1. Martyn Lee says:

    To be fair the potato line would be a funny retort.

  2. Kat says:

    In my opinion, there’s no correct way to flirt. OK, maaaaybe there’s a typical way that a large amount of people flirt…but why would you want to be typical?! If you’re into a guy, flirting comes naturally. Once you try to force it, that’s when disaster strikes. Just go with the flow, and you’ll find a guy that loves dogs and cheese just as much as you do.

  3. Chin Up, Chest High! says:

    You’re not the only one, I used to be (still am mostly) very uncomfortable with flirting. Only when I a) really fancy someone and b) am comfortable being around them can I pluck up the courage to do so. I don’t think I ever could with a virtual stranger.

    Go easy on yourself. The guy in the car park may have assumed you thought he was creepy and that’s why you bolted.

  4. […] it was a friendly invite trying to reconnect from somebody from high school. Remember my post about being a bad flirt? I’m pretty oblivious […]

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