life in all its glory

does your voice matter?

on March 29, 2018

Because apparently it does to some people.

Let’s call him Mr. Voice. We really hit it off on OkCupid. Felt like we were into some of the same things, on the same page of what we were looking for. Cute. Very responsive to messages.

It all escalated pretty quickly. Within the same day of us first talking, we exchanged numbers. We texted regularly for about a day or so. Then he became kinda fixated on hearing my voice. Saying he wanted to talk on the phone. I couldn’t that night, cause I was going out with friends. He ended up sending me a cute audio message saying good night or whatever. The next day, I sounded like a smoked a whole pack of cigarettes the night before….so I didn’t really wanna talk on the phone lol. He sent me another audio message. His messages slowed down. Barely heard from him. But, we texted a bit anyways.

The next morning, thinking I should maybe return the favor of the cute audio messages…I sent him one. Saying good morning and hoping he had a good day.


If I already wasn’t self conscious enough about my looks. Now I gotta be self conscious about my VOICE?! What is wrong with people? Maybe he has a fetish with voices and it didn’t fit with what he likes? He was so fixated hearing mine. I have a hard time justifying his behaviors. But…why try….right?

Anyways. Online dating is rough! Trying to stay positive….without having too many expectations?

3 responses to “does your voice matter?

  1. Dating Fresh says:

    Maybe we was only in it for the voice message to begin with? I agree, how strange!

  2. CUCH says:

    Unless you have a voice that could curdle fresh milk, it’s unlikely he rejected you because of what you sound like.

    He may have a voice fetish
    He may be fooling around (i.e. not single) and thought about cheating before having second thoughts
    He may have had another offer in the works already and decided he really really likes somebody else, best to cut you off before it got to the meet up stage
    He may have had a sudden tragedy in the family

    Point is, his reasons for ceasing contact could have been for almost anything and it’s not worth dwelling on.

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