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barking spiders

by vivaciousdeb

wow, it’s been almost a month since I’ve updated my blog. Sorry about that!

Growing up…my neighbors, sister and I used to always play together. One of the brothers was my age so naturally we were together all the time. Every now and again (actually pretty often) he would let out some pretty nasty farts. I’d get irritated with them and he would very innocently say “what? it’s those barking spiders” and we would both crack up and we’d forget the fart even happened.

One of my bff’s texted me the other day about something that happened with the guy she was dating. Apparently he farted on accident while he was laughing. He was super embarrassed and they didn’t even acknowledge it happened. I know for a fact that if it was me, I probably would’ve laughed it off and made fun of myself. I mean, let’s be real…we all fart and if you’re living in some delusional world where you think women don’t fart, we do! Get over yourself.

I have yet to fart in front of Mr. I and he hasn’t in front of me.

My question is…does it ever become appropriate? My mother raised my sister and I to never burp or fart in front of a man. I’ve burped once in front of Mr. I but it was an accident. I swear that thing came outta nowhere!

Anyways, is it ever okay? Curious to hear your thoughts

Let’s hope I don’t go another month before posting again.

Thanks for reading along, y’all!

Oh and…P.S.

Since I’ve been a little MIA….Here’s a quick recap on my life, if you’re interested:

I’m officially registered as a graduate student! EEK! That’s so scary but I’m SO freaking excited! It’s going to be a brand new chapter in my life and I’m looking forward to every moment of it. Classes start next month!
I’m so stupidly in love with Mr. I, I can’t even handle it sometimes. I feel like there should be some sort of party when you fall in love. Like, hey! come celebrate this awesome feeling. His name still holds true….Mr. Incredible. He makes me happy.
I’ve gained 15 lbs since about December. Which sucks cause I lost 40 lbs last year which was incredibly difficult and here I am just eating everything I can. I gotta do something about this. Some have called this happy weight, I call it me being a lazy ass and not being as active as I should be.
My summer has been filled with lots of fun activities! Amusement parks, being a tourist in LA, and mini vacations.

life in all its glory

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yes, i’m alive.

by vivaciousdeb

It’s been quite some time since my last post. Just wanted to let everybody know I am still alive! Life has been all sorts of crazy lately. On top of working my regular job, school has made me incredibly busy. Only three more weeks! (Not like I’m counting down or anything…ha) I’m also getting things in order for grad school (EEK!) for the fall semester. I’m so nervous and scared but so excited.

Adjusting to being in a relationship has been quite an experience for both Mr. Incredible and I. It’s been a really long time since either of us has been in a relationship. It’s been a wonderful experience though.

I also wanted to update my blog because I’m reading a very interesting book at the moment for a book review. It’s called Modern Dating: A Field Guide. So far, it’s very interesting and basically anybody who’s dating now-a-days should take a gander at it. I will be posting a formal book review by the end of next week.

Hope all is well with everybody!

Let’s hope I don’t go this long without a post again.

Much Love ❤

life in all its glory

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when “they” are right…

by vivaciousdeb

So I know we’ve all heard those sayings about what “they” think.

“they” say time heals all
“they” say once you stop ‘looking’ he/she will coe around
“they” say blah blah blah

You get the point.

I always hated when people told me that when I stop looking, “he” would come around. I think I may have even written about it before. What does that even mean? It’s not like I was standing on a street corner with a sign over my head that read “looking for Mr. Right!! MARRY ME!”

I’ve also always hated being single which is quite unfortunate because I’ve always been single! ha. I’ve never really been in a serious relationship. Just dated around.

Most of you have been a part of my journey where I basically came to accept being single. I actually started to enjoy it. I liked being single for once.

And…boom. Mr. Incredible came around.

“They” where right. Those bastards. Whoever they are.

Sometimes I’m not sure if I should flip them off or thank them.

What are some moments where “they” have been right for you? I’m curious to hear other people’s stories.

Real Life

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Relationship titles

by vivaciousdeb

Having that titles talk is the most awkward talk ever. I made a pretty conscious decision to not have “that” talk with Mr. Incredible because I knew we weren’t dating anybody else and that was all I needed to know.

One day when we’re hanging out…he introduces me as “his lady.” I liked it. I feel like the title of girlfriend or boyfriend sounds weird lol. Is that just me??

Anyways a few days later, he makes a pit stop at his old job but I waited in the car. Apparently he tells his old co-workers (when they asked about me) that I was his lady and one dude asked what that meant LOL. At the end of the conversation Mr. Incredible explains that I’m his girlfriend.

Whoa. Girlfriend? Yeah, that just happened y’all.

After he told me about that conversation…we talked about the awkwardness of relationship titles. I have such a pet peeve when people have the constant need to refer to their significant other as their boyfriend or girlfriend. THEY HAVE A NAME!

Also, I feel that as I get older…having a “boyfriend” just sounds weird. I remember reading an article once…I really wish I saved it! About alternative names for your boyfriend.

Man friend? My dude? I’ve actually referred to him as both.

I guess it depends on who I’m talking to about him.

I’m still trying to figure out what I’m going to do with my blog. I’m no longer an online dater…and I don’t believe in putting my relationship on blast.

What will I do?!?? Suggestions? Write about other aspects of my life? I mean, I have a relatively interesting life! Haha.

Speaking of, I got accepted into grad school at USC. Crazy, huh?

Shit just got real, folks.

dating Real Life

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feeling content

by vivaciousdeb

As we all know, it’s valentine’s day and I’m surprisingly okay with it. No, I don’t have a guy in my life. No, I don’t have a hot date tonight.

Every year…I’m usually hating life on valentine’s day. I get into a major funk and become a ball of emotion with a “bitter betty” stamp on my forehead. I also always tell myself…maybe next year I’ll actually be with somebody and when that next year rolls around I’m disappointed in myself for spending another valentine’s day as a single woman. I’ve never had a valentine. I mean, a real valentine. I’ve hung out with my girl friends or gone out with one of my gay guy friends but never a real date.

The past year (or so) has come with a lot of transformation. I’ve battled depression for a very long time but I made the commitment that I would make a very conscious decision to be more positive and to live a positive lifestyle. I cut a lot of people out of my life that needed to be cut out. It hasn’t been easy and I still have my “down in the dumps” kind of days but my general outlook on life is now pretty damn positive.

Anyways, being single sucks sometimes but I’m not hating life today and that feels SO good to say.

I feel like I’m going back to how I used to be. Just happy, bubbly and outgoing. Also, speed dating is happening tonight maybe that’s contributing to my non-depressing outlook on v-day. I’m not expecting to meet the man of my dreams but I’m looking forward to doing something out of my comfort zone.

With that being said….HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY! Hope everyone has a fantastic day! 😀

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