thirty-somethings

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balancing act?

on March 28, 2018

So, “they” say…once you aren’t looking, “it’ll happen.” What in the entire fuck does that even mean???

Then, other people tell me to go back on online dating. How do I go back on online dating and NOT LOOK. Is it a balancing act?

I’m thinking it’s about going on online dating and not having any expectations?? That’s what I’m trying. I’m trying to do this online dating stuff and not really hope or expect to find “the one.”

Thoughts on this random Wednesday evening. Now that I’m back on OkCupid, I’ll have more stuff to blog about!

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4 responses to “balancing act?

  1. I’m curious to hear your thoughts on the new OKC

    • vivaciousdeb says:

      Hate hate hate!!! LOL. I don’t like how they manage which messages we see. I want to get all my messages, then I can decide which one I want to respond to. I know there’s the function to look up your matches but it feels so much like tinder. And lastly, seems like they wanna move towards having paid members which is dumb. If I wanna see my likes, I gotta be a member.

      I have many thoughts as you can see LOL. You??

  2. CUCH says:

    So, “they” say…once you aren’t looking, “it’ll happen.” What in the entire fuck does that even mean???

    It doesn’t mean anything – it’s not even true. People don’t fall out of the sky. I would never have met my current partner (now over four years into our relationship!) if I hadn’t decided to message her on OKC. I wouldn’t have met anyone if I hadn’t gone on lots of dates to try to figure out what I do and don’t want in a woman.

    Nope, ignore such advice – it’s a meaningless platitude. Might look good on a Facebook meme, but that’s about it.

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