July | 2014 | thirty-somethings

level of excitement: through the roof!

by vivaciousdeb

My last two posts have been a little bit of a downer, huh? Well, get ready for some good news!!

I’ve been talking to a new guy. Nickname? Umm…how about. Mr. Sociable? We exchanged a few messages first, we’ve been texting for a few days now and we’ve had long/awesome late night conversations. He’s been very consistent (finally!!). He’s so nice. He’s ambitious and hard-working. He’s so sweet and compliments me all the time. He’s called me beautiful more times than Mr. I did in our entire relationship. He’s very good for my ego LOL.

Yesterday, he asked me out for a date. We’re going out this coming Saturday. We’re going out on a real date. I can’t even remember the last time this happened. We’re not just going to “hang out.” I mean, this is big!!

Anyways, this is the first time I’ve legitimately been excited about somebody since Mr. I.

I’m super stoked and I can’t waitttt to meet him!

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inconsistency

by vivaciousdeb

I don’t know if this is just a guy thing or what…but…what is it with them being inconsistent?!? Do they think it’s okay to just disappear for a week or maybe two? There’s this guy I was texting…I haven’t heard from him in 8 days (I only know this from the time stamps on our texts). After a couple texts he has the NERVE to ask me for a picture. WHAT.THE.FUCK! I say “I haven’t heard from you in a week and then you ask for my picture?!” His response? “lol yes” WOW!! What in his mind makes that an okay thing to do?

There’s this other guy that I’ve been messaging back and forth on OkC and it’s been a little over a month. Of occasional messages that really have no meaning behind them. Just small talk “oh hows your day?” “it’s going well, just at work right now…” blah-di-blah.

I mean, why don’t these guys put some real effort in getting to know me?! I’m trying not to take it personally. I’m trying not to think “oh it must be me they don’t want to get to know” or “i’m not worthy enough for guys to get to know” but it’s getting really hard.

I know I have to be patient. The right guy will make the effort but it doesn’t mean that it doesn’t suck in the meantime.

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flirting…or lack there of…

by vivaciousdeb

I can’t remember if I have written a post about my lack of flirting skills. I was too lazy to check, so here I am.

I suck at flirting. It’s one of those things I didn’t pick up on. Don’t get me wrong…I’m a very social person, I get along really well with others, and I can carry on a normal conversation with others. So what is it about flirting that makes me act like a socially awkward person?!? I have no idea. For example, this messaged me on OkC just the other day saying I have an adorable smile. My response back to him?? “You have some pretty cute dogs!!” I tried to save it by later saying something about him being good looking. He handled it well and said among the lines of they get it from him.

Is there a way I can learn how to flirt? I’m nearing thirty…does that mean I’m a lost cause?

There’s another funny story: (I’ve told this to a few of my friends, so if y’all are reading this…sorry!)

I go to staples (which is my favorite store…I have a freakish obsession with office supplies) and as I leave the store there’s a cute guy just a few feet in front of me leaving the store as well. Both of our cars are parked on the right side of the lot but in order for it not to be awkward, I move over to the left side so I’m not directly behind him. I soon realized that was a bad idea because I had to get to my car…I slowly moved back over to the right side. Only to my disbelief the cute guy is parked NEXT TO ME! EEEK! So, as I kinda get behind him again…he says in a jokingly/flirty way…”oh are you following me?!” And my response?? First, I make an weirdddd noise…followed by…”uhhhhh…sorrryyyyy….” all while hurrying to get to my car.

I sat in the car for a minute thinking: OUT OF ALL THE THINGS I COULD’VE SAID?! I SAID SORRY!?!??!? Ugh. I really gotta step up my flirting game.

Anyways, that’s that. One day some guy will learn to appreciate my social awkwardness.

there are so many good memes on bad flirting!

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Friends

by vivaciousdeb

I’m really trying to understand why some people would use a dating site to find friends. A couple of weeks ago I was messaging a guy that kept referring to me as friend. He would say things like “oh hey, friend” or “how’s it going, friend.” This wasn’t the first time it happened….so I asked my BFF is she ever had anybody say the same thing to her. She said no and asked what his looking for section said. I hadn’t even thought about it! When I looked it said looking for new friends.

I know some people aren’t as lucky as I am. I am very lucky to be surrounded with many amazing friends. Both female and male. I’m just really trying to understand why go on a dating website to find friends? Am I the only one that thinks it’s weird?? Let’s go ahead and rule out people who are new to the area. They’re the exception. I understand them trying to meet new people.

I mean my BFF just had some guy text her saying how awesome, beautiful and fun she is but that he can’t date right now and he’d like to be friends. REALLY?!? Just fuck off.

I can’t even begin to wrap my head around it.

Ugh. I’m very frustrated with the online dating scene right now. I have a lot more to say but I’ll save it for another post.

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