life in all its glory


on July 2, 2014

I’m really trying to understand why some people would use a dating site to find friends. A couple of weeks ago I was messaging a guy that kept referring to me as friend. He would say things like “oh hey, friend” or “how’s it going, friend.” This wasn’t the first time it happened….so I asked my BFF is she ever had anybody say the same thing to her. She said no and asked what his looking for section said. I hadn’t even thought about it! When I looked it said looking for new friends.

I know some people aren’t as lucky as I am. I am very lucky to be surrounded with many amazing friends. Both female and male. I’m just really trying to understand why go on a dating website to find friends? Am I the only one that thinks it’s weird?? Let’s go ahead and rule out people who are new to the area. They’re the exception. I understand them trying to meet new people.

I mean my BFF just had some guy text her saying how awesome, beautiful and fun she is but that he can’t date right now and he’d like to be friends. REALLY?!? Just fuck off.

I can’t even begin to wrap my head around it.

Ugh. I’m very frustrated with the online dating scene right now. I have a lot more to say but I’ll save it for another post.

6 responses to “Friends

  1. This is fairly common among girls’ profiles too:

    “I’m just looking for new friends”
    “I’m not looking for anything serious right now, just looking to make friends and if anything comes out of it – then that’s cool too”
    “I’m just on here to talk and meet new people”
    “I’m not really looking to date right now, just to meet people and see where it goes”

    I can’t help but wonder if they’re seriously just looking for friends, or if they are just that wishy-washy about online dating?

    etc. etc. etc.

  2. Chin Up, Chest High! says:

    I agree with TUV. At first, I was looking for friends because I wasn’t yet divorced and had moved to a new area, I genuinely was looking for new friends. That changed after a couple of months when I had settled in and felt I really wanted something more.

    I don’t get it – is it a way of keeping people at a distance and to leave a bit of flexibility? If so, then you have to blame the dating sites for pushing the idea that this is “friendship”, it isn’t.

    Take a break if you are feeling disillusioned. I did so several times but came back a few months later with new enthusiasm.

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