thirty-somethings

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are you single? here are some rules to live by!

One of my friends posted a super cool article on facebook today and I had to repost it. The original article can be found here

7 Must-Do’s While You’re Single…

1. Live alone. As hard as it is to live alone, you get to know yourself in an extreme, intense, and deeply satisfying way. It teaches us to live happily in solitude. It provides quiet to think. It allows us to become self reliant. I lived alone for 6 years before we got married and I believe, if nothing else, that time provided me a great deal of confidence in my ability to survive.

2. Quit your job. It feels so good to take a job and shove it (and not be affecting anyone else’s livelihood). It doesn’t seem as irresponsible to up and quit when it’s just your mouth you’re feeding. So if the job isn’t right for you, get out of there. Don’t waste another minute – this is your life we’re talking about.

3. Fly to a foreign country by yourself. I was nervous on my first solo trip to Mexico, even though now I almost always have to travel alone. You learn so much about who you are in how you handle foreign currency, foreign accents, and foreign chaos. It’s a cultural adventure and doing it alone, without worrying of checking in, when to call, and when to be back, is quite exhilarating.

4. Spend a weekend with a married couple your age. Listen to how they speak to one another. Notice their non-verbals. Ask about the rhythms of their daily life. Make a mental note: marriage is not perfect, nor is it the solution to what ails you. Be happy for your married friends and satisfied in where you’re at today. Know that many of us stay single forever, and that’s great. Life is about community, food, faith , travel, relationships, and love. Not just marriage. 

5. Take a long trip with your best friend. Plan a trip you won’t be able to take once you are married because your spouse will either: a) want to join or b) not be able to survive the time without you. You can backpack through Southeast Asia, staying at random hostels, or couch surf your way through Western Europe. I have a friend Jeddidiah Jenkins who over 18 months (right now) is riding his bike from Oregon to Patagonia with a few of his close friends. Get out there and go.

6. Be completely, utterly, wholly single for at least three months. Stop trying to date someone constantly. Fast from the hunt, from the hope, of another person coming into your life. Sit fully into your singleness and see what you find. Hopping wildly from one relationship to the next can do you a disservice. You’re never more ripe for self-reflection than when you’re on your own — and the more you know yourself, the more likely you are to find someone who’s right for the real you.

7. Be a good wingwoman or wingman (and watch Top Gun).It’s not always about you. Sometimes your best friends need your full-on support in their pursuit of risk and romance. Finding someone to love and putting yourself out there is not easy, but with a good friend at your side who eloquently drops the high points of your resume during a conversation with an exciting suitor, it can become much less complicated.

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are you the one?

Has anybody seen the new mtv show called “are you the one?” It aires Tuesday nights and they’ve only had one episode so far. I would love to say I’m above mtv reality shows…but clearly I’m not. They’re my guilty pleasure. It is what it is and I’m not going to be embarrassed about it.

Anyways, the idea of this show is pretty awesome. Here’s what MTVs website summarized the show as: In the most ambitious dating experiment ever attempted, 10 single women were selected and put through an extensive matchmaking process to find 10 single guys who are their perfect match. Now all 20 are living together trying to figure out who is their match. If they do, they’ll split the largest cash prize in MTV history – ONE MILLION DOLLARS.

Couples have to participate in challenges and when they win, whoever hasn’t won gets to choose a couple to go into the “truth booth.” There, the couples will get to see whether they are a match or not.

Within the first episode, there was a couple that immediately clicked. They were ALL about each other and said they had such good chemistry. This was the moment I got hooked into the show. WHY? Because, my friend ALWAYSSSSSS puts major importance on the chemistry she has with a guy. If she doesn’t feel that “spark” or the chemistry or whatever she calls it…she will practically disregard the guy. We’ve had so many conversations about this so called spark because she’s felt it with all of her boyfriends. I tell her not to put so much importance on it.

Anyways, the couple that were all about each other turn out not to be a perfect match. Watch the episode tonight and tell me what you think of it!

Should we put so much importance on that connection? Should we sit and wait for it to happen? What if it doesn’t? Is it a waste of time?

Valid questions, I believe. I would love to hear your thoughts!

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challenge: week 2

So, this week I decided to meal prep as my something new! I asked my bff what I should do and she gave me the idea. It’s something that we’ve both wanted to do for a while now. Most because we’re trying to be more healthy and make better decisions in regards to our food intake and exercise. I’ve lost about 10 lbs in the last month or so…I’m on the right track y’all! Meal prepping is a step in the right direction. 

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I wish I had all matching tupperwear to show off my meals for the week but I think some have gone missing. 

I will say that meal prepping does require research and patience. 

I’m looking forward to my week and my deliciously prepared meals! 

Stay tuned for next week. 

❤ 

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challenge: week 1

My challenge is already off to a rocky start. Soon after my post on the first, I got the flu. Apparently it’s going around. I can’t even remember the last time I’ve ever been that sick. It started with problems with my asthma, then the flu, then it turned into some respiratory infection. It took me nearly two weeks to become a functioning human being again. Soon after, I started school and my internship again. 

With that being said, I’m a little behind and trying to play catch up! I’ll get there eventually. For week 1, I visited a champagne brunch restaurant in downtown LA with my friend to meet some guy she had been talking to. A friend of his was supposed to meet us there, was it a double date? I’m not sure. But it sure made me feel a little uncomfortable going. The friend ended up not showing up which was awesome for me! Meeting a couple random dudes and a new champagne brunch restaurant, does that count as two things?? 

Anyways, I hope this year started off a bit better for everybody else! I’m looking forward to the new things I’ll be trying out. There’s already one in progress! But it’s a surprise. 

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new year and new beginnings

Hello everyone! 

It has been a very long time since my last post. So sorry I’ve been lagging. I officially finished my first semester of graduate school. I finished with a 3.66 GPA. It’s not perfect but I’m still so proud of myself for not only getting accepted into one of the top graduate schools in the nation but also SURVIVE! I’ve made great new friends and I’ve learned so much about myself along this journey so far. Being in this program has been so incredibly challenging but I have loved every moment of it. Well maybe not the all nighters I had to pull a couple of times. 

One of my new years resolution is to start blogging on a regular basis again. With that being said, I’m going to be taking part of a 52 week challenge. It was my sisters idea last year so I can’t take credit for it. I will be trying something new every week. So by the end of the year…I’ll have tried 52 new things!! Pretty cool, right? I’m excited. 

I will attempt to document my journey with pictures and stories. I’m really looking forward to this. 

Anyways, I hope everyone’s year is off to a good start. Mine was pretty shitty but I’m not going to let that stop me in keeping my head up. This year will be a great year and I will keep reminding myself of that. 

HAPPY NEW YEARS! May this year bring you lots of love, happiness, and success. 

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