We all get the feeling in the pit of our stomach when we’re about to go on a first date. We start thinking: I wonder if he’s going to like me? Is he going to find me attractive? Is he going to be as attractive as his photos? What’s he going to be like?
So many questions, so little time! I had a first date yesterday and boy was I nervous!!! We were getting along really well so far via emails/phone calls/texting. So it seemed as though there was high potential for B (can’t use his full name, obviously).
At first he was just as awesome as I was hoping he would be. But then the subtleties started coming out. We went Christmas shopping together because he needed help buying presents for his family and I still had a few people to shop for. Here’s (kinda) how one of your conversations went down:
- Me: okay, let’s figure out what you’re going to buy. Who do you need to buy for?
- B: everybody
- Me: *laughs* can we narrow that down?
- B: okay, my mom is one
- Me: perfect! what does she do?
- B: she sews
- Me: hmmm…okay. What does she do for fun?
- B: she sews
- Me: what does she like to do?
- B: I don’t know
- Me: Don’y you live with her?
- B: yeah
- Me: okay, so you don’t know what she likes to do?
- B: no
- Me: *laughs* you’re making it really difficult for me to able to help you buy christmas presents!
This conversation happened about 3 other times about other family members. GEEZ! Talk about pulling teeth.
I realized at that point we’re probably not going to work out. Why? Because he’s not very close to his family. My family (and friends) are very VERY important to me, we’re all very close. I deal breaker of mine is somebody that isn’t family oriented. I was bummed…I thought he had potential!
I mean, there are a couple other reasons why I think we won’t work out…one of which is his awkwardness but we don’t have to get into that right now. Or even the fact that he kept touching my arm. Dude, first date. Get off.
My question is: How far do we go before we break things off? Am I supposed to give it at least one more date? Am I jumping to conclusions? (sorry, I realize that’s more than one question).
thirty-somethings 