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when “they” are right…

by vivaciousdeb

So I know we’ve all heard those sayings about what “they” think.

“they” say time heals all
“they” say once you stop ‘looking’ he/she will coe around
“they” say blah blah blah

You get the point.

I always hated when people told me that when I stop looking, “he” would come around. I think I may have even written about it before. What does that even mean? It’s not like I was standing on a street corner with a sign over my head that read “looking for Mr. Right!! MARRY ME!”

I’ve also always hated being single which is quite unfortunate because I’ve always been single! ha. I’ve never really been in a serious relationship. Just dated around.

Most of you have been a part of my journey where I basically came to accept being single. I actually started to enjoy it. I liked being single for once.

And…boom. Mr. Incredible came around.

“They” where right. Those bastards. Whoever they are.

Sometimes I’m not sure if I should flip them off or thank them.

What are some moments where “they” have been right for you? I’m curious to hear other people’s stories.

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yes man

by vivaciousdeb

As some of you may or may not know, I’ve been a little bit in a funk lately. Can’t exactly pin point what I’m feeling or why I’m feeling it but I guess I’d explain it as feeling “blah.” (Yes, I realize that isn’t very descriptive).

I went out to dinner with one of my good friends the other night and for some reason she brought up the movie Yes Man. I can’t remember why it was brought up but the point that was made is that I should develop a “yes man” mentality.

For those of you that haven’t seen the movie….it stars Jim Carey. It’s about how Jim’s character vows to say yes to everything that comes his way for a year because his life was stuck in a rut and he wanted to get out. Interesting movie, I liked it.

I’m going to do it. Or at least try to. I have already mentioned before that I want to start doing more “stuff.” I need to get out there, I need to feel comfortable doing things on my own. I need to figure out what I actually like to do and know how to answer the question: “so what do you like to do for fun?”

As long as it doesn’t get in the way of my work (and school), potentially harm me or put my health in danger, and lastly if I can afford it…then it’s all fair game!

To start it off…I signed up for a couple of match.com stir events. Speed dating and game night. I usually wouldn’t go unless I had somebody to go with but I really want to go so I’m not going to sit and hopefully wait for a friend to confirm. Going alone is definitely out of my comfort zone. But I’m okay with that.

This is going to be interesting.

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i just want to feel wanted

by vivaciousdeb

I’ve been in a little bit of a funk lately. I think it’s about time I try and sort through these thoughts of mine.

Wanting to feel wanted applies to many aspects of my life. Not just dating; although, the point of my post is about the dating aspect, I think.

I’m not a fan of my job; actually…I kind of hate it. But, it is what it is. I’m (hopefully) going to start grad school in the fall, so things will change soon! I don’t feel like I’m needed/wanted there. I don’t feel challenged. I feel that everything would be just fine if I wasn’t there.

With my friends, I just want to feel that they think about me when they hang out and want me to join them so they call me and invite me. Even if it is last minute. I just want to know that I crossed somebody’s mind.

Even in my dating life…I want to feel wanted. I was recently at one of my friends house and her boyfriend was there. Throughout the night, he referred to her as beautiful, pretty, sexy, and maybe a couple other words describing how good looking she is. I love that she’s with somebody like that. She deserves it. I’ve never had that though. I’ve never had a man I’m seeing say that to me. Is that weird? I think it is. It’s no wonder why I don’t ever feel sexy, nobody has ever made me feel attractive. I know I’m not super mega attractive but I know I’m not ugly.

Every now and again, I’ll get an occasional “you have such a gorgeous smile!” Yeah, I know. Thanks.

I want a guy to look at me and for me to feel he wants to rip off my clothes. Obviously not all of the time, but every now and again…at least. Is that for real? Or is that something that’s just in books I read or movies I watch?

Maybe I need to learn how to feel sexy before I expect somebody else to find me sexy. I don’t know how exactly I can do that. I’ll do some research.

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awards for ME!

by vivaciousdeb

I never thought my blog would be as popular it is now. I’m so lucky to have been given two separate awards. 2012 blog of the year by DATINGINVEGAS at http://howtodateinlv.wordpress.com/ I thoroughly enjoy reading her blog and appreciate her giving me such an awesome award.

Here are the rules for Blog Of The Year 2012 (Thankfully, they’re simple):

Select another blog or other blogs who deserve the ‘Blog of the Year 2012’ Award;
Write a blog post and tell us about the blog(s) you have chosen – there’s no minimum or maximum number of blogs required – and ‘present’ them with their award;
Include a link back to this page ‘Blog of the Year 2012’ Award at the Thought Palette and provide these ‘rules’ in your post (please don’t alter the rules or the badges!)
Let the blog(s) you have chosen know that you have given them this award and share the ‘rules’ with them
You can now also join our Facebook group – click ‘like’ on this page ‘Blog of the Year’ Award Facebook group and then you can share your blog with an even wider audience
As a winner of the award – please add a link back to the blog that presented you with the award – and then proudly display the award on your blog side sidebar … and start collecting stars…

As for The Versatile Blogger award, that was presented to me by Project Southsea blog at http://wp.me/2XYhP. Thank you so much for this awesome award. I also recommend reading that blog!

The Rules:

1. Display the Award Certificate on your website

2. Announce your win with a post and link to whoever presented your award

3. Present up to 15 awards to deserving bloggers

4. Drop them a comment to tip them off after you’ve linked them in the post

5. Post 7 interesting things about yourself

Here are some blogs I feel deserve this award:

http://polysyllabicprofundities.com/

http://howtodateinlv.wordpress.com/

http://soon2becatlady.com/

http://toomanyposts.wordpress.com/

http://chinupchesthigh.wordpress.com/

Honestly, I wish I could link all of the blogs I follow because they’re all wonderful! Definitely check out the ones I’ve listed today, they’re all awesome.

Here are 7 random facts about me:

As a nearly 28-year-old, I am still very much in love with the Backstreet Boys. I’ve been to at least one concert in each one of their tours.
I am extremely obsessed with penguins and plan on getting a tattoo of one soon.
I am hoping to begin my masters program for my Masters in Social Work later this year.
I still sleep with a teddy bear
If I’m not dating anybody by the time I’m 34-35, I will start a process to have children without a man in my life
I’m on a board of directors for a non-profit street newspaper my sister started in San Diego
I absolutely love planning and organizing things!

Again, thank you to both of the bloggers that presented with me with these awards. It’s very much appreciated! Please check out their blogs, you won’t regret it! 🙂

life in all its glory

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