thirty-somethings

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first date jitters and let downs

on June 18, 2014

Well hello everyone! It has been a very long time since I’ve updated my blog. I keep putting it off but here I am finally. So..a few months ago I decided I was ready to try the whole online dating scene again. Apprehensive but willing to give it a shot. In March, I began talking to this one guy. We really hit it off and I really enjoyed talking to him. He was a first timer and I was the first girl to message him. We talked for way too long. We exchanged messages for about 6 weeks. He worked graveyard and I was still at school at the time so our schedules were conflicting. Finally we made the effort to meet each other (by this time…it was already the end of April). About a couple hours before our date, I had a full blown panic attack. I started freaking out and I called my best friend (bless her heart). She asked why I was freaking out and I told her that I really liked him and I was scared that he wasn’t going to like me once he met me. That not only was I not ready for rejection but I wasn’t strong enough for it. Anyways, she talked me down from my lil freak out session. I ended up telling him I wanted to do something more low key instead. He was totally understanding…we went to dessert instead of dinner. 

Y’all remember that I’m into tall guys?? Well, I decided to give this guy a shot being that he was 5’9″. At least that’s what he said he was. Anyways, we met up and the dude was MY height! I’m barely 5’5″. PLUS….he was at LEAST 50 lbs heavier than what his pictures portrayed. It’s not even that he was shorter and heavier that was upsetting. It was the fact that he lied. Aside from the physical stuff, he kept talking about how his family went through “the accident” that happened like 10 years ago. The way he talked about it was as if it happened 6 months ago. I’m not an insensitive person…but there comes a time where you just gotta get over things. And being that I’m going into the social work field, it’s really important that I’m with somebody that’s emotionally stable and has their shit together. This guy wasn’t it. And then on top of it…he talked about these cock fights he goes to when he goes to Mexico in gruesome details. I don’t know about y’all but I’m not into that animal cruelty thing. It’s not cool and it’s definitely not something that you should talk about on a first date. 

He also didn’t hold the door open for me and didn’t walk me to my car. I guess chivalry is dead folks.  I’m waiting for somebody to prove that wrong. 

Before going on my date, my bff told me “you need give yourself the chance to turn somebody down.” She was right. I was able to turn him down. I felt bad for the guy because it was his first date in 2 years but…I didn’t feel a connection and he was not upfront and honest. 

Anywho, that’s it for now y’all. Let’s hope I can keep up with my blog. I also think I’m gonna bring back the “WTF moment of the week” 

Stay tuned. Thanks for reading ❤ 

 

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7 responses to “first date jitters and let downs

  1. Chin Up, Chest High! says:

    It was the fact that he lied.

    Hey Deb, welcome back! I hate it when people tell a major lie, there’s nothing else to say except that they don’t respect people enough to be honest. I got that with a girl I met in October. Arguably, her lie to me was even bigger – she had a visible disability that she did not mention in conversation or on her profile while she proudly told me when an honest person she was! I never saw her again.

    I am guessing then that the pictures he put up were quite old?

    • dsantos85 says:

      thank you!

      yes…his pictures were incredibly outdated. I mean the obvious was the weight but even his hair was super short in his pictures…but in person his hair was really long almost at shoulder length. eeek!

  2. Ella North says:

    Glad to see you back!

  3. Audrey says:

    I agree with your BFF! You need the chance to tell someone you’re not interested. I’m sorry the date didn’t pan out well and that he was liar and a weird cock-fighter enthusiast. Also, definitely glad you’re back to posting! Missed you!

  4. bunnypudding says:

    welcome back lovely! Yikes, here’s hoping for some better luck and nicer men in the future posts Xx

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