Having that titles talk is the most awkward talk ever. I made a pretty conscious decision to not have “that” talk with Mr. Incredible because I knew we weren’t dating anybody else and that was all I needed to know.
One day when we’re hanging out…he introduces me as “his lady.” I liked it. I feel like the title of girlfriend or boyfriend sounds weird lol. Is that just me??
Anyways a few days later, he makes a pit stop at his old job but I waited in the car. Apparently he tells his old co-workers (when they asked about me) that I was his lady and one dude asked what that meant LOL. At the end of the conversation Mr. Incredible explains that I’m his girlfriend.
Whoa. Girlfriend? Yeah, that just happened y’all.
After he told me about that conversation…we talked about the awkwardness of relationship titles. I have such a pet peeve when people have the constant need to refer to their significant other as their boyfriend or girlfriend. THEY HAVE A NAME!
Also, I feel that as I get older…having a “boyfriend” just sounds weird. I remember reading an article once…I really wish I saved it! About alternative names for your boyfriend.
Man friend? My dude? I’ve actually referred to him as both.
I guess it depends on who I’m talking to about him.
I’m still trying to figure out what I’m going to do with my blog. I’m no longer an online dater…and I don’t believe in putting my relationship on blast.
What will I do?!?? Suggestions? Write about other aspects of my life? I mean, I have a relatively interesting life! Haha.
Speaking of, I got accepted into grad school at USC. Crazy, huh?
Shit just got real, folks.
thirty-somethings 
Well done on the grad school, and you have a cheery involved sense of life, and that is interesting to read about, as well as the dating saga
Ahhhh!!! My bf has a bf!! Haha! Love you!
Hahahaha. I’m such a two-timer LOL. Jk jk. Love you too babygirl!!
Actually, I like the terms “boyfriend” and “girlfriend”. Some people think it sounds too serious but to me it sounds non-intense and quite playful which is what a relationship should be in the beginning. It signifies exclusivity but sounds less boring than “partner” (which is a word I tend to associate with homosexual relationships – and it strikes me as odd when straight people insist on using it), less of a cliche than “the other half” and less possessive than “my man” or “my woman”.
Perhaps you could turn it into an advice blog “men, this is what you should/shouldnt do/say in your profile”. “what makes the perfect first date” and stuff like that really, just tie it to the experiences you had while online dating.
Just a thought 🙂
I appreciate your thoughts!! That’s a really good idea, actually.
And…I actually don’t think boyfriend sounds all that weird anymore. I’ve been single for manyyy years so that’s all I’ve ever known haha. I’m feeling much better about it now.
Huh. I never realized “boyfriend” or “girlfriend” could sound weird or awkward to anyone. Nor did I ever realize that there was a “talk” to be had about it. Interesting.
I like “my lady” pretty well too. Sounds classy. For the sake of clarity with all of your friends and family, you should probably stick with boyfriend and girlfriend, even if they do seem a bit “childish.” I think they’re the best bets.
You know…I think I came to the realization that referring to him as a my boyfriend sounded weird to me because I’ve been single for long! Haha. It’s unfamiliar territory but I think I’m dealing better with it now! 😀
Wow! Congrats on grad school! As someone who is going to be applying to that scary life soon, I can’t imagine the relief you feel. And congrats on your Lady/Dude-not-name-needing-thing! I am glad things are going great for you– I hope you do find something to talk about, because your optimistic posts are always great to read!
Thank you so much! You’re right it’s a huge relief but also really scary all at the same time. It’s a huge time and financial commitment!
And Mr. Incredible and I are finally referring to each other and boyfriend and girlfriend. I guess it was weird for me since its been so long since I’ve been in a relationship. Glad I’ve moved passed it because it feels wonderful!
I’m probably just going to talk about the wonders life brings. I’ve really enjoyed blogging…I’m not ready to give it up just yet 😉
I had a very similar conversation this morning which was left at :
Titles are weird.
I like the idea of boyfriend/girlfriend, but it seems very…. middle school?
“Significant Other” and “Partner” both seem so formal and rigid.
I am partial to “my lady friend”. It’s casual, but implies some level of intimacy beyond
“we went out a couple times”
One of my employees refers to her 5 year relationship as “my person”. I thought it was kinda weird the first time she said it, but it has kind of grown on me.
“my person” reminds me of grey’s anatomy! ha…my cousins girl friend refers to my cousin as her “plus one” which i find interesting!
all in all….titles are very weird!