thirty-somethings

life in all its glory

Mr. Memory Lane

on December 11, 2015

So, I’d like to talk about Mr. Memory Lane. A little while ago, I got a message from a guy I went to high school with on facebook. I had a crush on him back in the day and a few years ago attempted to reconnect with him by inviting him to a party I had at my house but nothing happened. Anyways, Mr. Memory Lane messaged me and we made small talk for a little while then asked if I wanted to grab dinner or drinks some time. At first, I thought it was a friendly invite trying to reconnect from somebody from high school. Remember my post about being a bad flirt? I’m pretty oblivious sometimes.

So, we talked for a couple weeks, texting, phone calls and it was glorious! He made me laugh and I finally was looking forward to going on a date with somebody. He’s cute, funny, hard working amongst other things. But yes, I was really looking forward to the idea of possibly dating somebody again.

We had a difficult time setting a day for us to meet because our schedules were a little off. Finally, I invited him to come meet with a couple girl friends of mine (they left pretty much as soon as he got there) and we just hung out for a little while. It was nice. We had a nice conversation and I really enjoyed myself. I couldn’t quite put my finger on how possibly felt.

Then about a day or so later, he stopped texting me. Just like that. Done.

Was he not attracted to me? Did he think I was weird? Did he think I was ugly? Or fat?? I mean, what the hell is it? It’s hard not to take stuff like this personally.

I think I may be at a point where I’m thinking something is wrong with me.

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9 responses to “Mr. Memory Lane

  1. Dar says:

    First of all? THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU!! You are an amazing human being and gorgeous to boot. That asshat probably had an idea of how you were in hs, which let’s face it, who isn’t different (and more awesome) when they escape that time period? Shallow bastard. He can go suck a rock. Love you❣❣❣❣

  2. CUCH says:

    Firstly, welcome back!

    Secondly, as a straight male – no, there is nothing wrong with you! Dating got me down for a while too, I’m sure you remember, because of the flakes and fakes. But I persevered and met someone. You don’t really know this guy’s story. He may have stuff going on in his life and while it was rude of him to just fade out, people sometimes change their mind for no obvious reason.

    Keep going, you’ll get there!

    • dsantos85 says:

      thank you!! I mean, cognitively I understand that there’s nothing wrong with me but it’s hard not to take things like this personally. You know? I know it’ll get better eventually. It’s just a matter of time 🙂

  3. There’s nothing wrong with you, I’ve had this happen countless times. Sometimes it just doesn’t work

  4. Brandye says:

    Went through the same situation. Makes no sense. What did I do?

    • dsantos85 says:

      at the end of the day. we did nothing wrong. it all boils down to the other person, they’re the ones that decided not to pursue anything because that’s just the way life is but we didn’t do anything wrong.

      btw, welcome to my blog!

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