thirty-somethings

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haters gon’ hate

on February 22, 2013

So I got what I’d like to call my first “haters comment” on my last post. This person basically dissected my entire post in bullet point format essentially saying I am drama, irrational and I deserve to be treated the way that I was. Obviously not in those exact words lol but that’s what I got from the comment. I didn’t approve the comment because I will not allow somebody to write that nonsense on my blog. Most of the people that read my blog do not know me well enough to make an assessment about me like he/she did (I’m totally assuming it was a guy though). 

The entire comment was 884 words, yes…I had to copy and paste it into Word because I just had to know. That’s OVER one page, typed! First, this person cares way too much about what I’ve had to say and secondly…who the hell has THAT much time on their hands? 

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Saw this somewhere on Facebook late last night. I can’t remember where though. This had me legitimately laughing out loud.

Anyway…I knew some sort of hater was going to cross my path at some point. I mean, I am putting myself out for the public to read about. Does this make me an official blogger now? Maybe! I’m sure it’ll happen again. In which case, I’ll brush it under the rug again because to be quite honest…I don’t really give a shit! 

Here’s a little snippet of what he/she said: 

“I won’t call you an “asshole”, but I will say that you would do well to take responsibility for yourself rather than demanding that others give you special treatment….You may not be “crazy”, but you certainly aren’t rational, at least as far as this “male friend” of yours is concerned.” 

I didn’t even go into detail about what my male friend and I had a falling out over…so that’s just ridiculous lol. Also, I’m pretty sure I didn’t ask for special treatment. 

I think some people just like to be not only critical of others but also put them down.

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I love writing about my dating adventures because it puts things into perspective for me. There are so many awesome people that comment and give me their advice…I love it because it’s so helpful to hear somebody else’s perspective on whatever is going on in my life. To those people: thank you! 

To anybody who feels the need to berate others, fuck off. I don’t need your negativity.  

 

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13 responses to “haters gon’ hate

  1. I think its really great that you can shrug this off. Getting haters online can seem silly to some but it can be really hurtful to others because you never really know who that person is. I just wanted to give a thumbs up for being confident in yourself and not caring what this person thinks of you!!

    • dsantos85 says:

      I mean, I’m not going to lie…when I first read it, I got a little upset thinking how could that person judge me so much without even knowing me?! But then I realized, what’s the point of stressing out about it if I don’t even know how it is?

      If at some point I find out who it was, then I can address it with that person but until then…it’s no use!

      Thanks for following along 🙂

  2. Love your haters; they’re your biggest fans!

  3. impossibletodate says:

    Dating in Vegas you totally took the words out of my mouth. Deb you should feel good. This hater loves your work so much they have read your email, taken the time to think about it and then construct a lengthy email reply. Well done this is a true sign of the success from your blog!

    • dsantos85 says:

      Haha that’s the reason why I said that maybe I’m a true blogger now. I mean, it’s some what of a compliment for sure. But like I told dating in lv, I will not tolerate somebody belittling me like that.

  4. Way to go! You really seem to have a healthy perspective on the whole thing. A page of hateful words seems really rough though. Hope he/she moves on!

    • dsantos85 says:

      It was tough to read through at first. I was pretty offended! But, at the end of the day…I don’t know who it was so I can’t stress out about it. Their words mean nothing!

  5. Leslie A says:

    Good for you girl!!! If you go back through my blog posts, I’ve had a TON of haters in the past, over the dumbest things!! It’d be both guys and girls trying to argue things out of nowhere that indirectly involved my posts. It was dumb. And sheesh, 884 words?! Seriously, who even HAS enough time to write a comment that long?! Haha. Anyways, how I see it, if you’re writing something to incite some kind of (what I like to call) passion in people, whether it be positive or negative, you’re doing the right thing. 😉

    • dsantos85 says:

      Yes, 884 words! I don’t even know how many of my blog posts are that long! LOL.

      But yes, I’m very aware that I must be doing something right. Just gotta keep doing what I’m doing.

      I appreciate the support 😀

  6. Good for you! I still find myself getting dragged down by some of the mean comments. I realize that some of them want to cause drama regardless of what I say (for example, one berated me for not taking responsibility in one of my essays and then told me I was enabling my ex in another essay when I took responsibility for my part). The peanut gallery will always have something to say. It’s up to us to decide if it’s worthwhile.

    And I love that potato pic too:)

  7. Dar says:

    Deb, I’ve been meaning to comment on this but haven’t gotten around to it, slacker, I know, lol! You should have let that douchebag’s comment through so we could all point and laugh, and pull it apart piece by tiny little piece! You should know by now that we got your back, girl! 😉

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