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Mr. Indifferent

on February 25, 2013

I’ve been chit chatting with this guy for just about two weeks. It has mostly been filled with really annoying small talk such as “hey, how’s your day going?” “oh, it’s good. and yours?” “it’s going ok.” Blah blah blahhhhh. 

I never realized how much I hate the word okay until I started talking to him. He’s always just okay. I use words such as wonderful, fantastic, glorious, etc. to describe how I’m doing. Now, I understand not everybody is as eccentric as I am but sometimes I just feel like screaming at him JUST LIVEN THE FUCK UP ALREADY!!! 

I can tell that he’s one of those guys that’s just kinda down on life and not for any particular reason. Just kinda blah. I battle my own depression. I do not have the time nor the energy to pull somebody out of their funk

From his pictures, I can already tell I’m not all that attracted to him. I don’t feel any sort of connection while chatting with him. I can go all day not hearing anything from him and I’m totally fine with it. He isn’t very talkative, he barely has a personality, and he keeps to himself. That doesn’t work for me. 

He’s been wanting to take me out but I’ve been super busy. I know I’m supposed to be giving this whole “yes man” thing a go…but I feel like I’m just trying to convince myself to give this guy a shot. I’m pretty sure that’s not what it’s supposed to be like but I could be wrong.

I know I have nothing to lose by going out with this guy but I already know I’m not going to be into him. I feel kinda bad cause I’ve been talking to him this long. Do I just go anyways? But that’s not fair to either of us, right? 

To go or not to go?!?! 

21 responses to “Mr. Indifferent

  1. Don’t go..just my two cents. Why waste your precious time. Personally, I hate first dates and I would not put my energy into a guy I know is not going to work. Maybe you sense something that could work? Good luck!!

  2. Audrey says:

    If you’re not that into him, it’s bes for you not to go out with him. It’ll save you both time and most likely blasé dinner conversation. Good luck with whatever you decide 🙂

  3. Dating 2.0 says:

    I say go! I feel like some people are very different in text or writing than they are in real person. Worst thing would be you’re right about how you will feel and you can cut it short…but you never know!

  4. Frustrated dater says:

    I also say go! I agree with Dating 2.0…not everyone’s personality comes across well by text or email, it’s why I say I HAVE to meet you in person to see if we connect. Just meet for coffee or something quick!

  5. bunnypudding says:

    Oh the mistakes I have made by not realising that tone cannot be properly expressed in a status or text…I reckon go….you never know! 🙂

  6. I had an experience a lot like this. He was someone that I talked with every day but no matter what we talked about, he never really had much to say about it. I ultimately decided not to meet up with him but it was less because of his lack of personality and more because I had met 2 other people that I was VERY interested in. Good luck with whatever you decide.

  7. Ashley Delgado says:

    This sounds very familiar!!!! Never say never because it will bite you in buttocks. Just do it. You’re not walking up to the alter just yet so the door is wide open to flea if need be. He may be different in person (I doubt it) but you never know.

  8. Lee Geary says:

    You never know. There could be more to him in person.

  9. I concur with some of the others. How a person seems online and how a person actually is IRL may be totally different. You never know who that person may turn out to be. I say give him a chance. You may be pleasantly surprised. And what’s the worst that can happen? If nothing else – if you play your cards right you can get a free meal/drinks out of it. 😀

  10. shedancesintherain says:

    Meet for a drink. That way, if it is not what you had hoped, you can leave. It’s always worth a shot!

  11. Just go, what’s the worst that could happen? You will probably waste a few hours which could have been used to do something else but just give it a shot. I know it is frustrating to go for a date with someone you’re not feeling, but look at both sides of the coin, it could go well,really well, or it might not go so well, and you will get over it and life will go on!

  12. I’ve got a feeling he may not be the right guy for you. Finding so many wrong guys in a row makes believing the right guy is out there harder to believe, but he is. Just keep going 🙂

  13. I almost cancelled a date with a guy that ended up becoming my boyfriend. it just shows that you really don’t know someone until you meet them. And if the date is truely boring, politely end it after 45 mins.

  14. What does your heart say? For such a decision, look at your inner compass, not outside advice.


  15. suburbangirl4love says:

    If you want to go simply for the experience, then go for it! If not, probably better just to leave it and move onto the next! Really enjoy reading your blog! I just nominated you for the Liebster Award. You can take a look here:

  16. I wouldn’t go if you’re really not interested. If, like me, you’re just pretending you’re not interested because you don’t want to go… I’d go. I try to make myself do things I’m making up reasons for not going to, but sometimes I slip by myself. If that even makes sense.
    Anyway, I just saw that suburbangirl4love nominated you for a Liebster award… And I guess you’re just too popular, because we did too? Haha, here’s our post about our nominations,, I hope you don’t feel too loved or something?

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