thirty-somethings

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dreaded questions

on January 10, 2013

Obviously when you’re getting to know somebody…you ask many questions. Sometimes you don’t really know what to ask or say and you end up asking something ridiculous. Here’s a list of questions I absolutely despise:

1. What do you look for in a guy? Okay, so I understand the meaning behind this question but I really don’t know how to answer it. Sometimes I just want to say: “I don’t know, somebody decent enough to be in a relationship.” I don’t want to sit there and list all of the things I’m looking for in a guy. I also have a short little paragraph written in my profile about some things I’m looking for.

2. When was the last time you were in a relationship? Honestly, why does that even matter? I’m sure it’s because you want to see if I’m not over an ex or something. But it’s super awkward answering that question. Why? Because I’ve never really had a long term relationship. I’ve had very short relationships (and not many at that). Does that make me weird? I don’t know. I had a guy ask me that and then later referred back to me never being in a relationship as if I was some kind of freak.

3. What do you do for fun? I know I wrote about this in my last post. This one is awkward for me because I do all sorts of random things. I do whatever comes up.

4. Why are you single? Now, this is by far my LEAST favorite question. I hate it. This question is usually following some sort of compliment: “Wow, you’re so awesome. Why are you single?” Listen dude, if I knew WHY I was single, I wouldn’t be single! Are you expecting me to say some crazy ass reason? Like…”Oh I’m actually a psychopath and I enjoy killing small animals.” (This isn’t true just FYI). Why does there have to be a reason, anyways? I’m single and that’s that. Get off my case.

I’d love to hear what other questions you all don’t like being ask! I’m sure I’m missing quite a few.

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7 responses to “dreaded questions

  1. Kat says:

    I feel you on the “What do you do for fun?” question. I’m not too fond of it myself. I’m sure it’s just a question to spark conversation whether or not the person being asked has one thing he/she absolutely loves doing or a bunch of random things he/she enjoys. Either way, I’d much rather spend time with someone and show them what my interests are rather than discuss it in detail. But that probably goes hand in hand with the fact that I’m not much of a talker.

    • dsantos85 says:

      That’s exactly how I feel! I’d rather do things together and find out that way. I totally understand it’s a spark conversation type of question…I guess I just need to figure out what I really like to do so I can feel more comfortable answering that question! hehehe

  2. I don’t like any of those questions. However, I do understand the question about the last time you were in a relationship. I always red flag a guy that has been single too recently or too long ago. My most loathed question is “why am I still single.” Makes me feel like I have some major defect or something..lol Good post!

    • dsantos85 says:

      I mean, I TOTALLY understand the premise behind these questions. I don’t like it because I feel my answer works against me since I’ve never really had a serious relationship, ya know? But…I need to work on my answers I suppose hahaha. If I know these questions are coming, I should know what to say 🙂

  3. Audrey says:

    I can’t agree with you more about number 1!!!! Plus, my qualities in a guy change depending who I’m speaking with.

  4. LjS says:

    I remember okcupid had so many questions! Ugh

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