thirty-somethings

life in all its glory

dating myself

on January 6, 2013

I’m generally not a fan of making New Years resolutions but I will be making a couple this year. One of which is: I promise to date myself.

This topic is something I’ve talked a lot about with a couple of friends of mine.

One question I always get asked by guys is “So what do you like to do for fun?” And I surprisingly never really know how to answer it! What do I like doing for fun? I mean, I know I love watching movies. What else? Ummm…I love going to concerts but I don’t go very often because it gets expensive. I also like going to sporting events but don’t go to those as often as I’d like for the same reason as concerts. 

I have an incredible group of friends that I hang out with almost every weekend. What do we do? Generally just hang out doing whatever comes up that weekend. Or I’ll go to some sort of family event or hang out with my parents. One thing I know for sure is: I have a good time no matter what I do.

I think it’s time I start doing things to get a better sense of myself. I’d love to be able to answer such a simple question with ease. Dating myself will also help me get in touch with what I really want in a significant other. I need to get a sense of what exactly makes me happy. It’s time for me to feel comfortable enough doing things on my own before I can expect to share some of those experiences with somebody else.

I think it’s really important to continue dating yourself regardless of your relationship status. So many people lose a sense of who they are because they become so overly involved with their significant other and then BAM all of a sudden you realize how unhappy you are and how you’ve somehow lost a part of who you are.

My younger sister has started a year long challenge: every week she’s going to try something different. I think it’s a brilliant idea! I’m not going to completely copy her but I am going to follow her footsteps and say I really want to step out of my comfort zone more often! I want to do more with my life. Stay tuned for updates on how awesome it is dating myself.

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5 responses to “dating myself

  1. This is fantastic! I love dating myself!! I treat myself to movies, spa nights, etc. Even just going out somewhere and being alone at a coffee shop or in the park is fabulous and I end up meeting new fun people that way, too. 🙂

    • dsantos85 says:

      I already go to the movies so I’m trying to branch out. I’m really excited about my adventures! I’m definitely going to use your idea of spa nights, that sounds wonderful!

  2. Ashley Delgado says:

    I think one very important element to dating yourself and exploring is to not be judgmental and be opened minded. Also appreciating things for what they are and not what you want them to be will give you a new perspective. I loved dating myself and exploring new environments. Get out of the walnut bubble!

    • dsantos85 says:

      oh my gosh. The walnut bubble! What a wonderful way to put it. It’s so true, I know that’s something I definitely need to work on.

      I’m also working on being more open minded. I know I have a long ways to go but I’ve definitely gotten better 🙂

      • Kat says:

        oh god, Am I going to get stuck in this Walnut bubble?? I just recently got myself out of the OC bubble -_-

        “Dating myself will also help me get in touch with what I really want in a significant other. I need to get a sense of what exactly makes me happy.”
        100% agree. I love this post. Not many people have fully grasped this concept, and it’s easy to lose sight of it from time to time (myself included). Your happiness always comes first, everything else will inevitably follow. I think this goes for everything, not just in terms of dating.

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