thirty-somethings

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mr. incredible

on April 8, 2013

Well, I think I’ve made you all wait long enough. It’s time I write about my current guy. I originally met him nearly two years ago. The first time we met, we went out a couple of times then he disappeared. Then a few months later be hit me back up and we started seeing each other again for a couple of months…soon after, he disappeared. The first time he disappeared because he got sick and we had just started seeing each other so he didn’t want to burden me with anything. The second time…it’s because he was so obsessed with work he couldn’t really handle a relationship. After he lost his job a few months ago, he had a bit of a life changing experience. He reevaluated his priorities and has come to the realization that everything doesn’t need to revolve around work.

After that second time (which was around December of 2011) I obviously wasn’t going to make any effort. Last week, I get a message from him on okc. I responded of course. It’s been wonderful ever since.

We hung out on my birthday last Friday and he told me about all his feelings for me. It was quite intense but I loved every minute of it. He made it very clear that he wants to be with me and won’t be disappearing on me. He’s here to stay this time around.

He’s so attentive, he’s always telling me how beautiful I am. When we’re together he makes it a point to always touch me whether its my leg when we’re sitting or holding my hand or putting his hand on my back. He also makes it known that he wants to see me.

I’m a pretty high strung person. I get anxiety over stupid shit and my OCD kicks in pretty often but when I’m with him…he calms me and it’s such an incredible feeling.

I had really strong feelings for him when we were seeing each other last time and as soon as I saw him again those feelings rushed back as if he never left.

Yes, he doesn’t have a great track record but I don’t care. I’m not going to live in fear that something bad may happen. He apologized for all that happened and said he wasn’t going to leave again. As of right now, I believe it. I’m going to go along with it and see where this path leads me. I’m looking forward to every minute of it.

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18 responses to “mr. incredible

  1. Yes! I’m so happy for you. This could it be it at last! Fingers crossed he won’t be doing a disappearing act this time! It sounds very positive :-). I would love to hear your Mr Right story in a few months time.

  2. Ella North says:

    Good for you! Always choose love over fear

  3. Dar says:

    Yay, some happiness for Deb!

  4. I hope everything works out for you and him

  5. I LOVE how you mentioned you are not going to live in fear. That’s the way to live. Also, I know what you mean by “calming presence.” That’s when I know I’ve found someone good 🙂 YAY YAY YAY for you!

  6. So happy to hear this! I hope he sticks around this time and doesn’t hurt you. Sounds like he genuinely wants to make things work and really cares for you. Looking forward to getting an update!

  7. Debby says:

    I really like the fact that you’re breaking every ‘made-up-in-the-90s-rule’, and go back to what’s really important: your gut feeling that’s telling you to give this guy a chance. I’m cheering for this one!! 🙂

  8. Great news! Really happy for you.

    The only downside I can see is that this will mean you will have less to blog about. Hopefully you’ll still keep us posted?

    • dsantos85 says:

      I will most defintielyyyy keep you all posted. Blogging has been the best thing for me..I can’t imagine my life without it.

      I’ll be around for a while 🙂

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