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Mr. 007

on February 12, 2013

Back in October, I met a guy…we can call him Mr. 007. We really hit it off, or so I thought. We had a couple of dates, we even made out! It would’ve probably gone further had I allowed it. 

In the midst of our “hanging out” phase, I found him on instagram. Yeah, I know…it’s stalkerish, judge me if you want. I noticed he was hanging out with a particular chick quite often. I tried not to think much of it because I have a lot of guy friends so I can’t be too judgmental. One night he called me around 10:30pm saying I should come over. We all know that’s booty call time. I prefaced my answer by saying I really don’t want you to get offended and explained to him that I wasn’t going to come over because I actually kinda liked him and didn’t want to ruin things by bringing sex into the equation too soon. It was a little more wordy than that but you all get the point. He got super butt hurt and sorta became an asshole. I’m pretty sure he had been drinking. We said our good nights and what not. I never heard from him again. 

Until about last week. Yes, last week. THREE months later. He hits me up out of the blue saying it’s been a long time since we’ve spoken blah blah. I respond hours later because “I was busy.” We end up actually talking on the phone later on that night and made it seem that I was the one that didn’t contact him. UM NO. I told him he got all butt hurt when I didn’t come over late at night and never heard from him. His response actually surprised me, he said “I can see why that left a sour taste in your mouth, I apologize.” 

Wow. He apologized. Cool! I told him it was fine because we had only hung out a couple of times. 

Anyways, I end up checking him out on instagram again. Well, because I needed to see what happened during this three month hiatus. Turns out…him and that broad became a couple. I think they’re broken up though because he had a recent picture with #singlelife. WTF? 

Mr.007 disappeared for a couple of days and said he wasn’t ignoring me and he was just busy. We talked a bit the next day (on saturday) but I haven’t heard from him since. It was a few texts back and forth but he completely ignored my last text. And boom, he’s gone…again.  

WHY MUST YOU CONTACT ME IF YOU DON’T PLAN ON GOING THROUGH WITH IT?! Just fuck off Mr.007. If you text me again, I’m probably going to say…listen if you’re into me then take the fucking time to show it, if not…delete my damn number. 

 

Sorry for my rant. I’m irritated, hungry and all alone in the office today. 

 

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12 responses to “Mr. 007

  1. Debby says:

    I totally feel you on this one – and I totally agree with how you handle this (or planning to handle this) dudes like this are trouble.

  2. I CAN’T stand it when men pull this move. You are not alone. I hate to put it this way butmen who do this are not that interested. When a guy is, he will make it known. I feel that guys who do this to me are just using me as a back-up. You deserve better cuz you’re awesome!

  3. This guy contacts you out of nowhere after three months? I would have just snorted in response and that would have been the end of the conversation. You saw he was an asshole back then… why in the world would you even entertain this now?

    • dsantos85 says:

      I wouldn’t say he’s an asshole. When we were getting to know each other he was actually pretty awesome. I attributed his douchebag response to my rejecting him so I didn’t think much of it.

      He apologized for the way he acted that night so there’s no reason for me to hold it against him especially when we had only gone out a couple of times. I don’t hold grudges and I believe people deserve a second chance (most of the time lol).

      • Well, judging from your description of events he certainly exhibits all the familiar symptoms. Drunk dialing looking for a booty call, then getting butthurt because he’s not getting what he wants, then contacting you after three months because you’re his fallback plan after things didn’t work out with this other gal. And guys like that are good at making apologies. But now he’s dropped off the radar again… probably because he’s busy checking out his other options.

        At least that’s what it sounds like is going on.

        Of course, I could be wildly wrong here, but I’ve heard stories like this many times before so I’m sticking with my original analysis. Plus, I’m a guy. I know how guys are. In any case, somebody who’s causing you to write a post like this doesn’t sound like somebody to waste your time with, because he’s obviously wasting yours.

      • dsantos85 says:

        he’s definitely wasting my time. I can agree with that. Ironically…he ended up texting me just a few minutes after my post about him :/ I haven’t even responded because I just want to cuss him out lol

  4. impossibletodate says:

    What a total waker!!! You need to kick his sorry ass to the curb. You are not a backup plan….you are too good for him. Tell him you are not interested!!

  5. […] 007 texted me just a few minutes after my post went up about him (crazy timing, right?). He sent me a half assed text saying sorry he never got […]

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