thirty-somethings

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to friend request or not to friend request?

I wasn’t planning on my second post being about this, but something happened yesterday so I figured I’d seize the opportunity!

So I’m texting this guy yesterday (we haven’t in met in person yet) and it’s really only been less than a week since we first started talking and he asked me if I use instagram. I froze! I didn’t know how to respond. Do I tell him? If not, how do I let him down? I mean, he had the balls to ask me…I didn’t want to shoot him down and risk him never asking me again.

So my question is: when is it appropriate to bring in social media? is it ever appropriate?

I’ve been on a weight loss journey this entire year so for halloween I used the same costume and took a comparison picture from last year and present. Did I want him to see that? Do I want him to know about my true fat girl problems?

Man, my head filled with so many questions and scenarios about what could potentially happen. Do I want him to see my post promoting my blog? Would it intimidate him? I don’t want him to think “oh shit! I don’t want her blogging about me!”

Well, I did it. I told him my user name for IG. I went for it. BUT I did it after deleting my post about my blog. I felt it was the right thing to do.

After exchanging IG user names, our texting conversation got a lot better! We had more to talk about, conversation flowed better, and I think we got to see a little more about each others personality.

So far, so good I suppose. I wonder if it’ll cause problems in the future.

I’d like to think my IG is less personal than my facebook. Is there one social media that’s more appropriate than others to share?

I wonder what other people think about this. Thoughts?

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Hello world!

Here i am…*cough*twenty *cough* seven and I’m having this love/hate relationship with the single life. Sure, it’s nice most of the time. But, when do we feel it the most? Holidays? Birthdays? Weddings? I’m sure we all have a moment at some point where we feel it would be nice to share with that “special somebody.”

What do we do about it? Some people try speed dating, blind dates, keep hitting up those bars and clubs in the hopes that you’ll find somebody, etc etc. But wait! There’s also ONLINE DATING. Yeah, I said it. Not only did i say it…I’ve been living the life of an online dater. dun dun dunnnn. It’s so taboo, isn’t it?

Some days it’s a joke (I mean…how are some people even allowed to make a profile) and other days, there’s a little glimmer of hope at the end of the tunnel.

What am i going to blog about? Well…the answer is easy: my adventures that come with being an online dater. Some of the situations I find myself in are absolutely incredible and blog-worthy. I can’t just keep telling my friends about it, I’m sure it’ll get old at some point. Now is the time for me to shout it out from a mountain top!!!

I’m not going to talk about all the situations I’ve come across so far because that’ll take the fun out of my future blogs, duh. But I will give you a little preview:

How about a guy that showed up to our first date (at a movie theater, mind you…that should already be strike one!) wearing a freaking old school windbreaker jacket. Don’t get me wrong, I’m no fashionista, but a windbreaker?!? Seriously dude, those are so 7th grade. Also didn’t bother to comb his hair and awkwardly put his arm around me when the PREVIEWS started! When I came back from sneaking away,  I put the arm rest down thinking he would get the hint. DID HE? No….no he didn’t. He put his arm around yet again. With the arm rest down. Yes, it’s very uncomfortable. I felt so bad for the dude, that I let it happen. I could only take it for about half the movie, and I finally had to move his arm. Was that it? No…there was also a very long, very awkward hug at the end of the night. This is for real, folks.

Or what about the guy that wanted to jump into a relationship after a couple of dates? How was I even surprised he turned out to be a possessive and controlling man? LOL. Come on, Deb…keep an eye out for those red flags waiving right in your face.

Or what about the dude that got so damn defensive about me not wanting to talk about “naughtiness” with him. This was our FIRST time talking via instant chat. So excuse me if I’d like to keep that stuff to a minimum. He started saying how I was judging him and was forming negative opinions about him already. No sir…those are issues you have in your own head because I politely tried to change the subject by not even making it a big deal.

Anyways, I’m looking forward to this blog. I hope you enjoy it as much as I do! Future posts probably won’t be as long though, so don’t worry! 🙂

Much love,

Deb

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